Shame loves sex as much as Shonda Rhimes loves killing off main characters. Everybody comes to sex with their own built in shame, whether it’s about putting things in their butt or just the fact that their body literally exists. We live in a hypersexualized world that is not a sex-positive world, and that makes things difficult and honestly, less sexy.

So how do we become less ashamed about sex? Well, per usual, it really starts with sex education and teaching preteens about consent, acceptance and sexual health instead of just scaring them with pictures of STIs and whispers of “blue waffle”. We also need to be more aware of how our own biases (including our sex education) affect the way we act in sexual realtionships and bring a little more compassion to the table.

The good news is, COVID has given us the opportunity to work on our skills of talking about test results, sickness, and shame in a way that could be very beneficial for our sex lives. We would tell you here, but then what would be the point of the video? Watch to find out how you can up your sexual satisfaction by reducing your sexual shame.