Lovely advice from the self-help book: br try something new which scares you – br willing as always to believe a guru br I tried something that made me blue br br in the face with fear – guess what, br instead of feeling stronger I was br more scared than ever before. br I cannot recommend such advice - br br When wading through dark, scary br places the fear did not go away… br Do something new, ha! - I got up br and opened my mouth to sing but br br for fear was breathless – so much br so not a sound came from my mouth - br Thank you, but no thank you br I’ll stick to things I CAN do and br br leave “growth” to those who write br these hopeless self-help books – give br me a magical incantation, a safe room br a lively imagination, and leave me alone.