How To Spot Gaslighting , in a Relationship.br Have you ever told someone you were br feeling sad, only to have them respond br with a phrase like, “no, you’re fine, you’re br just feeling tired. Don’t be dramatic"?.br If so, you may have been the victim of gaslighting.br Gaslighting is similar to the concept of invalidation. , Brooke Schwartz, licensed psychotherapist, via 'Cosmopolitan'.br It’s undermining somebody’s sense of reality and denying the facts, and their feelings, to create what br is a blatantly false narrative. , Brooke Schwartz, licensed psychotherapist, via 'Cosmopolitan'.br It makes someone question br their judgment, their perception br of reality, their experience, and sometimes their sanity. , Brooke Schwartz, licensed psychotherapist, via 'Cosmopolitan'.br Experts say disagreements and perspective differences do not count as gaslighting.br Experts say gaslighting is never br an isolated incident either.br Gaslighting is an intentional act: a gaslighter often has something to gain from emotionally steering a situation toward their favor.br Experts say gaslighters often begin relationships with "love bombing," displaying nurturing and charming characteristics.br Steadily, a gaslighter attempts to become their partner's sole support system.br Invalidating phrases such as, “you’re so ungrateful,” or “you’re going crazy,” are examples of typical gaslighting language.br If you or someone you know is a br victim of domestic abuse, call 911 or the br National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE or visit thehotline.